Archive for October 31st, 2009

Chinese Marriage Traditions

Saturday, October 31st, 2009
Henry KH Fong asked:

The procedures of an ancient Chinese marriage are captured in the phrase “Three (3) Letters and Six (6) Etiquettes”.

What are the three letters?

The Three Letters are the engagement letter, the delivery of gifts letter and the taking of the bride letter.

In ancient times, if a man is interested in a woman, he will engage a middlemen (a middle-women actually) to explore the possibility and if appropriate to convey his intentions to the woman’s family. If the woman’s family finds him acceptable, they will notify him and he can make the official proposal by delivering the formal letter of engagement on an auspicious date.

At this stage the women’s family can still say no to the proposal. As you would expect there are still a lot of things to sort out and to negotiate over.

If the proposal is accepted, the next step is to deliver wedding gifts to the woman’s family. These wedding gifts which are normally expensive are accompanied by the ‘Delivery of Gift’ letter which is essentially a list of items and quantity much like a delivery order! By signing this letter and taking delivery of the gifts, it signifies the women’s family acceptance of the marriage.

The itemized ‘Delivery of Gift’ letter is also a safeguard against pilferage by the delivery team!

The third letter is known as the ‘Taking the Bride’ Letter as it is the letter that the groom produces when he arrives at the bride’s home on the wedding day. Upon acceptance of the letter, the bride is deemed to have joined the groom and become a member of the groom’s family.

It is no wonder why the bride mothers weep uncontrollably on wedding days. It is like losing a daughter!

What then are the Six Etiquettes?

It refers to the six main procedures in an ancient Chinese marriage. It includes the official proposal, the checking of Ba Zi (compatibility using a system of Chinese Astrology), selection of auspicious date for the wedding, delivery of gifts, confirmation of wedding dates and finally the wedding itself.

Once the man has set his eyes on the girl, he sends an official proposal to the woman’s family. Once the proposal is accepted, he will seek the services of an astrologer to determine if they are compatible. Research will also be done to ensure that there is no blood relationship between them. At this stage the engagement can be called off if they are not compatible or if their blood line are somewhat connected.

The next step is the selection of auspicious date for wedding followed by followed by the delivery of gifts.

After the gifts are accepted, the woman’s family will seek an astrologer to check the auspiciousness of the proposed wedding.

This followed by the six and final etiquette, the wedding itself!

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Montana Is Surely a Must Visit Destination

Saturday, October 31st, 2009
Devinder Patel asked:

Govt. acquired the Louisiana territory and then later Montana was carved out of it. Thirteen states in total were carved out from the old Louisiana territory. Montana became a state on 9th November, 1889 as the 41st state of US and in 1894 Helena outbid Anaconda to become state capitol, the result of the famous ‘War of the Copper Kings’.

Fort Owen State Park is the site of first white settlement in Montana and the fort was built hereas a regional trade center in 1850. All the furnishings and artifacts are saved in the restored rooms and the site is listed on the National Register of Historic Places.

Walk along the steamboat levee and see the part of the town once called ‘the bloodiest block in the west’ and also view the ruins of Historic Fort Benton. Created in 1864, Fort Benton became the hub for trade and travels in north-western US and Canada. Many vessels used to dock in its harbor bringing and taking many traders.

At Sluice Boxes only camping is permitted, but no amenities are provided. At least it has a trail going to the Lewis and Clark Forest and Little Belt Mountains. It is located in north central Montana and fishing is permitted on its streams.

Pompeys Pillar National Historic Landmark is a rock that’s rising 200 ft above the Yellowstone River. Various markings on the rocks depict that people used to meet, camp and hunt centuries ago. It also has a carving of Captain William Clark’s signature and date of 1806 where interpretive tours are also available.

It later became the military HQ. Most of the original buildings still stand and it became the State agriculture experiment station in 1911 and continues so to-day. Fort Assinniboine Historic Site, Northern Agriculture Research Center was built in 1879 and was the largest military fort west of Mississippi River. Its length was 40 miles and the breadth was 15 miles.

Fairmount Hot Springs Resort is a place, which offers its visitors lots of Massages and makes them feel totally relaxed. It also offers them lots of water related activities making best of Montana in one place. A real wild and roaring destination and its original structures still standing like Hotel, Temple and the town jail.

Spanish Peaks Brewery and Italian Caffe is a place where tourists who want to fill their stomachs can come. It offers you various Spanish ales and Italian food for lunch, dinner or just for taste. On Sundays it offers drinks at discounts.

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